Love to Be Loved: The Balancing Act of Life! How You Know That You are Loved and Cared...?

Abstract

Society is obsessed with love and we invest substantially in promoting healthy relationships in family and community. It is often enviable to see couples loving each other equally. In reality, however, the number of couples who can love each other equally is very little. This situation often bothers us: between us, who is loving the other side more?

As such, we have to make a choice: to love your partner more, prefer to be loved more, or choosing to accept a relationship where both sides love each other equally.

The needs of men and women are different

• The people who chose that they “prefer to be loved more” can be characterized as someone who wants to be taken care of, to be approved and wants the other side to give more than they are giving.
• The people who chose to “love their partner more” wants to have this stronger sense of happiness that comes along when they are with someone they love more.
• Lastly, as for people who chose that they can “only accept if both sides love each other equally” firmly believes that love should be equal, and both parties have to be willing to give in to each other.

The bottom line is that attachment is a substantial issue for all of us in health. And the social costs are huge: mental illness, abuse and violence, sexually transmitted diseases, suicide and — at an extreme — sociopathy, criminality and radicalism.

Keywords

Love, Interpersonal Relationships, Life, Health 

Learning Outcomes

After undergoing this article you will be able to understand the following 

1. What's exactly love and to be loved?

2. Why feeling of Love is an important thing in life?

3. What are the components of love?

4. What comes after falling in Love?

5. What comes after maturity in Love?

6. How Do Positive Thoughts and Emotions Help?

7. How a love life survive? 

8. Tips and strategies for developing harmonious Love Relationships.

9. Conclusions

References

FAQs 

1. What's exactly love and to be loved?

"Love to be loved" refers to the desire to receive love and affection from others in return for the love that one gives. It reflects the human need for reciprocity in relationships, where individuals seek to be valued, appreciated, and cared for by those they love.

2. Why feeling of Love is an important thing in life?

Love helps to get connected to others, feeling connected with others is definitely one of the life's most fulfilling experiences, research has revealed it repeatedly.In the busy world, where we live in, love seems to have taken the back seat to power, status and money.

The important things in life are family and friends. You can never see photo of a house or car, you usually only see photos of near and dear in the house.A lack of social support as well as human connection may have long lasting negative effects such as, depression, lowered immune function and higher blood pressure.

Love tends to make more impact when compared to money does and far outweighs the material things, we chase in terms of long-term fulfilment. When you hug release a chemical oxytocin, which releases a feel-good factor.

It makes sense to spend time with people you love and to nurture friendships, this is truly is, where the contentment lies.

Take time and meet your loved ones, friends and all those individuals who have made some positive impact in your life. Start nurturing those relationships, you can also buy small gifts such as chocolates, flowers or pens or any thing which they are fond of. This small gesture of yours, would have a positive impact on your relationships.

Love helps us to rise even we are about to fall or have fallen due to varied circumstances, which may lead to depression and lack of motivation.

3. What are the different components / levels of love?

Love suggests there are four components essential to building enduring relationships:

1. Attraction

2. Connection

3. Trust

4. Respect

These are features of love that require you to act. These are actions of compassion, appreciation, and reliability to build. They’re made from times of positive shared experiences, close proximity, and familiarity.

There are 12 precursors to falling in love, “reciprocal liking, appearance, personality, similarity, familiarity, social influence, filling needs, arousal, readiness, specific cues, isolation, and mysteriousness,” in connection with cultural differences, ethnicity, gender, and speed.

The eight different types of love, according to the ancient Greeks, are:

• Eros (sexual passion)
• Philia (deep friendship)
• Ludus (playful love)
• Agape (love for everyone)
• Pragma (longstanding love)
• Philautia (love of the self)
• Storge (family love)
• Mania (obsessive love)

4. What comes after falling in Love?

Stage 1

Lust: The phase ruled by sex hormones estrogen and testosterone. This phase promotes the need for sexual gratification and reproduction.

Attraction: Similar to the phase of lust in purpose, attraction is defined by the dominant role of dopamine and norepinephrine, which contribute to feelings of elation, energy, and euphoria.

Attachment: Ruled by the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin, this phase encourages emotional bonding in long-term relationships.

Stage 2

After the honeymoon, or falling in love stage, comes:

Early attachment:

You’re now aware of your partner’s quirks, but you’re still learning about one another, enjoying new experiences, and building memories.

Stage 3

Crisis and tension:

During this phase, the relationship is strongly tested by a crisis, major life change, or personal growth that may cause drifting apart.

Deep attachment: Relationships that have come through hard times successfully enter deep attachment and have a sense of understanding, acceptance, and respect, as well as emotional safety.

5. What comes after maturity in Love?

Maturity, in general, is many things. Maturity in a love relationship is everything! First, it is the ability to base a decision about a love relationship on the big picture - the long haul. In general, it means being able to pass up the fun for the moment and select the course of action which will pay off later.

In a love relationship, it means being able to enjoy the instant gratification that comes with the romance of the moment while knowing the best is yet to be and being patient while you watch your love grow. It is knowing that by working together, the state of unconditional love will present itself in the relationship and will mature with time. It is knowing that you grow into a love relationship. It doesn't happen all at once. Mature love partners seek new ways to help each other grow.

One of the characteristics of infancy is the "I want it now" approach. Grown-up people can wait. And often they don't. Often they allow themselves to slip back into infancy so they can justify rushing into things.

Maturity is the ability to stick with a project or a situation until it is finished. It means doing whatever it takes to make the relationship be one you are proud to be in. The adult who is constantly changing jobs, relationships, and friends, is in a word. . . immature. They cannot stick it out because they have not grown up. Everything seems to turn sour after a while.

6. How Do Positive Thoughts and Emotions Help?

How Do Positive Thoughts and Emotions Help?

We all know that positive thoughts and emotions help you feel better, but they also do some other pretty cool things. They help you:

improve your memory and attention

take in more information and hold several ideas in your mind at once

understand how different thoughts relate to each other

handle tough situations more easily

Positive thoughts and emotions help open you up to new possibilities. You’re better able to learn and build on your skills. That leads to doing better on tasks and tests.

7. How a love life survive? 

Can we do without love? For many years, neuroscientist Stephanie Ortigue believed that the answer was yes. Even though she researched the science of human connections, Dr Ortigue – an only child and, in her 20s and 30s, contentedly single – couldn't completely grasp its importance in her own life.

“To make it work, couples need the maturity to realize a long-lasting relationship will entail sacrifice, commitment and hard work, but that the payoff of a deeper love and stable, loving home life is well worth the effort.” Here are suggestions on how to strengthen the connection with your partner.

It's about mutual growth, support, respect, and understanding. Both partners are invested in each other's happiness and well-being. Acceptance - True love means accepting each other's imperfections and loving the whole person, flaws and  survival? And if so, how do we help the lonely?

If you don’t feel that you have a meaningful relationship, it’s as if you are socially thirsty, and your brain sends a signal to tell you that you need to help your social body. Some of the same alarms activat

8. Tips and strategies for developing harmonious Love Relationships.

How do you build a harmonious relationship with others? Through a shared sense of appreciation and respect! Two people who respect each other can be in a harmonious relationship with each other as it can ensure that they can resolve all problems without disrespecting their partner and their feelings.

Here are the survival Tips for Making harmonious Love Relationships

• Communicate regularly

• Appreciate the little things

• Encourage intimacy

• Know your value as a partner

• Listen

• Be responsive

• Be supportive of your partner

• Be together for the right reasons

• Build trust

• Celebrate

• Embrace love when you find it

• Engage in productive conflict

• Expectations

• Express your love often

• Focus on yourself

• Get along with his friends

• Know What you want

• Look after your health

• Love with no conditions

• Never take your partner for granted

• Nurture your relationship

• Pamper yourself

• Practice forgiveness

• Set boundaries

9. Conclusions

After making it past the early stages of infatuation, your feelings for your partner might become less intense. You may not long for their company in quite the same way. In fact, you might even enjoy time apart.

Don’t worry. This is pretty normal, and it doesn’t have to spell the end of things.

Long-term love involves commitment. If you and your partner devote effort to maintaining your bond, at the very least, you’ll probably have a strong relationship. And you just might keep that actively in love feeling alive, too.

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FAQs 

Q: What exactly happens to the brain when we are in love?

A: When we're falling in love with someone, the first thing we notice is how good it feels. It's because the brain releases feel-good neurotransmitters that boost our mood. When we find love, it is like biological fireworks. Our heart rate is elevated, our levels of the so-called love hormone oxytocin are rising, which makes us feel connected. Our levels of the hormone and neurotransmitter norepinephrine are spiking, which makes us lose track of time; our levels of adrenaline rise, which expands the capillaries in our cheeks and makes us flush.

Meanwhile, our levels of serotonin, a key hormone in regulating appetite and intrusive anxious thoughts, fall down. So when we are in love we might find ourselves eating irregularly or fixating on small details, worrying about sending “the perfect text”, “saying the perfect words” and then replaying the text or the phone call over and over again in our head.

Then, when we start feeling a deep sense of calm and contentment with our partner, brain areas are activated that trigger not just basic emotions, but also more complex cognitive functions. This can lead to several positive results, like pain suppression, more compassion, better memory and greater creativity. Romantic love feels like a superpower that makes the brain thrive.