Many parents find it hard to interpret their teens’ behavior. Is your child just acting like a typical teen or does she or he need your help?
Typical Teen Behaviors
Every teenager is different and has a unique personality. They
- Struggle with their identity – for instance, obsessing over their appearance
- Feel awkward about their changing bodies
- Switch between being overconfident and having poor self-esteem
- Follow friends’ examples in clothing and activities
- Find fault with their parents
- Revert to childish behavior, such as slamming doors and crying
What's the Signs That Raise Concern
These teen behaviors should raise a red flag with parents:
- Extreme change in school performance
- Signs of alcohol or drug abuse, including frequent red-rimmed eyes or the presence of drug supplies
- Inability to perform homework, household chores or other activities
- Numerous complaints of illness – teen who frequently complain of headaches and other symptoms when there is no physical cause may be more likely to suffer from depression later in life
- Frequent angry outbursts or extreme opposition to authority
- Violent threats or behavior
- Truancy, theft, fire-setting or vandalism
- Fear of becoming obese even though body weight is normal
- Preoccupation with anti-social music if accompanied by disturbing behavior changes
- Signs of depression, including prolonged sad mood, changes in appetite and thoughts of death
20 Common Behavior Problems In Teenagers
1. Need For Privacy/Withdrawal:
Texts, emails or phone calls…everything is on high alert! Expecting them to be completely transparent would lead to unpleasant and futile arguments. They tend to discount what parents say, ignore their suggestions, avoid confiding in parents and seem more comfortable with their friends.
Regular communication between parents of the same peer group is not only reassuring but also helps keep track of activities without making them feel uncomfortable. A sudden refusal to attend school/social meets with signs of stress needs special attention.
2. Urge To Break Rules:
Curfew violations, dyeing hair, funky clothes, and arguing endlessly While you may allow them to do something temporary and harmless, you must save your objections for serious and permanent changes to their appearance or lifestyle.
Encouraging a sense of ownership towards self-made decisions would foster a lifelong habit of being responsible. Even if they are having fun, they have to be home when they said they would.
3. Body Image Issues:
Gawky, zitty, skinny, hairy is what the teenagers see when looking at an evolving image in the mirror. As their bodies are morphing into new shapes and sizes, teens struggle to get comfortable in their own skins accept their body as is.
While worrying about physical appearance is a common teenage feature, but a persistent feeling that their body is “not right” or sudden changes in appetite (over or under eating) needs expert attention.
Screen time for teens can include research work for projects, art, music, and sometimes less productive activities like watching inapt TV shows, social media or simply visiting unsafe websites.
Although one cannot avoid screen time in today’s world but should ensure that it does not interfere with other activities like being physically active, doing homework and spending time with family.
Obesity, attention or sleep disorders due to excess screen time need expert intervention.
5. Curiosity About The ‘S’ Word:
Like they say “What we resist, persists” – Sex and private parts have always been forbidden topics, thus making teens most curious about it.
A yearly physical exam, information on puberty and sharing your own experiences with acne or discomfort at developing early or late could be some of the many ways to open communication channels early on so that they remain open through the teen years.
Kickboxing, book club, piano class, cricket coaching – if you see your teen fleeting from one activity class to the next – know that either they are simply following the herd (peers) or they are yet to discover their calling or it could simply arise out of their inability to make rational decisions.
Coach or encourage them to uphold their commitments and learn to finish what they start.
7. Pressure To Confirm:
Fake laughing at a friend’s joke or blindly following the popular trend is a result of fear of being judged or being exiled by peers may seem dysfunctional but it is most commonly seen in this teenage phase.
Guide them towards “healthy” conformity (accept diversity and scout negative influences) Ex: Choosing an outfit because it suits their body type or because they like it and not because it is in vogue.
8. Lying:
If you often see yourself going nuts over shaded truths or downright lies about homework or unaccounted expenses – instead of policing and building a bigger barrier, find out the reason. Whether it is to appear powerful or avoid trouble/rejection from peers or simply an inability to problem solve.
To avoid a reflex of “I can’t tell my parents anything”, avoid a judgemental tone. Instead, be an emotional coach and discuss the consequences of lying while acknowledging how scary telling truth can feel sometimes. Addressing lying is a process, not a quick fix.
9. Everything’s A Drama – Emotional Upheaval:
With changing hormones and the intense emotions felt like never before – silly gossips, the fallout with friends or slight tremors on social media – everything is attended with high emotional intensity.
Building self-esteem will help them be more comfortable, reduce dramatic presentations and handle the situations lightly
10. Impulsivity:
When given an option of getting Rs. 50 in an hour, or Rs 500 in a month. Most teens would opt the former. Instant gratification and a drive to explore the world, a teenage brain thrives on impulse.
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